Happiness is difficult to define. But unhappiness is easy to identify.  Unhappiness is lethal to everyone around you. The famous Terman Stud...

10 Habits of Chronically Unhappy People

Happiness is difficult to define. But unhappiness is easy to identify. Unhappiness is lethal to everyone around you. The famous Terman Study of Stanford discovered after conducting numerous studies, to be near unhappy people gave us poorer health and shorter life.

Happiness has much less to do with the circumstances of life than you can think. A University of Illinois study found that people who earn more (more than 10 million dollars a year) are just a little happier than the average number of employees who work for them.

10 Habits of Chronically Unhappy People
The circumstances of life do not have much to do with happiness, for it is under your control (that is, under the result of your habits and your vision of life). Psychologists at the University of California who study happiness found that genetics and life circumstances account for only about 50% of a person's happiness. The rest depends on each one.

When people are unhappy, it is much harder to be around them, even working with them. Unhappiness distances people, creating a vicious circle that prevents you from achieving all that you can achieve.

Unhappiness can catch you by surprise. Your happiness is determined by your habits, those you have to watch carefully to make sure they do not drag you into the abyss.

Some practices lead to unhappiness more than others. You must be careful with the following ten habits since they are the worst allies.

One # EXPECT THE FUTURE

Saying to yourself: "I will be happy when" is one of the unhappy habits in which it is easier to fall. The way the sentence ends does not matter (it could be a promotion, a pay raise or a new relationship), because you put too much emphasis on the circumstances, and improving a situation does not lead to happiness. Do not waste time waiting for something that has proven to have no effect on your mood. Instead, focus on being happy now, at this very moment, because there is no guarantee of future.

2 # LOSE TOO MUCH TIME ON MATERIAL

People living in extreme poverty experience a significant increase in happiness as their financial circumstances improve. But several investigations have concluded that material does not necessarily make you happy. When you create a habit of pursuing material things, you are likely to feel unhappy because, beyond the disappointment you experience when you get them, you discover that you have earned them at the expense of things that can make you happy: friends, family, and hobbies.

3 # STAY AT HOME

When you feel unhappy, it is tempting to avoid other people. This is a huge mistake because socializing, even when you do not enjoy it, is ideal for your mood. We all have those days when we just want to shut ourselves up and refuse to talk to anyone. But by the time this becomes a trend, it can destroy your mood. Recognize when unhappiness is making you antisocial, make yourself oblivious to leaving home and relate. You will notice the difference immediately.

4 # SEE YOURSELF AS A VICTIM

Unhappy people tend to think by default that life is hard and that it is out of their control. The problem with this philosophy is that it encourages a feeling of helplessness, and people who feel helpless are unable to take action to improve their operations. While it is true that everyone has the right to feel depressed from time to time, it is important to recognize when you are letting this affect your vision of life. You are not the only person that bad things happen to you. You have control of your future as long as you are willing to make decisions.

5 # BEING TOO PESSIMISTIC

Nothing feeds unhappiness like pessimism. Beyond being something high for your state of mind, The problem of a cynical attitude is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you expect bad things, it is very likely that what happens to you will be bad things. Pessimistic thoughts are hard to pull away until you realize how illogical they are. Force yourself to analyze the facts, and you will see that things are not as bad as they seem.

6 # COMPLAINING TOO MUCH

Complaining in itself is worrying, as is the attitude that precedes it. Complaining is self-reinforcing behavior. Talking always (and therefore thinking) about how bad things are happening to you reaffirms your negative beliefs. Talking about what bothers you can help you feel better. But there is a fine line between complaining in a therapeutic way and feeding unhappiness. Beyond making you unhappy, the complaint will keep you away from other people.

7 # EXAGGERATE EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS TO THEM

Bad things happen to all people. The difference is that happy people see them for what they are (a temporary disaster, bad luck) while unhappy people see them as something negative, as further evidence that life is already giving them too many blows. A happy person may be upset if an unforeseen event on the way to work occurs, but they keep their ideas in perspective: "How wrong. But, well, at least it was not so serious. "An unhappy person, on the other hand, uses whatever happens to him as proof that the day, the week, the month, perhaps even his whole life, are doomed.

8 # GET YOUR PROBLEMS UNDER THE CARPET

Happy people are responsible for their actions. When they make a mistake, they recognize it. Unhappy people, on the other hand, consider that problems and their mistakes threaten them, and therefore try to hide them. Problems tend to increase when we ignore them. The more you ignore a problem, the more you feel you can not do anything about it. And then you feel like a victim again.

9 # DO NOT TRY TO GET BETTER

Because unhappy people are pessimistic and feel a lack of control over their lives, they tend to sit and wait for life to be solved by themselves. Instead of setting goals, learning and improving themselves, they only keep moving forward and then wonder why things never change.

10 # COMPARISON WITH OTHERS

Jealousy and envy are incompatible with happiness, so if you constantly compare yourself with others, it is a sign that you should stop. In one study, most subjects said they would be happy to earn less money, but only if everyone else also earned less. Be careful with this thinking as it will not make you happy and very often has the opposite effect.

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