"Love makes you happy, Heartbreak can kill you!". How to train your brain to forget someone you love so much? Do you ever totally...

Relationships Breakup Survival Guide: Train you Brain To Forget You Ex

"Love makes you happy, Heartbreak can kill you!". How to train your brain to forget someone you love so much? Do you ever totally forget your first love? Isn't it a wonder how easily you fall for someone into a romantic relationships? But what if you're getting hurt for losing someone you love? You should try to forget the person who had in you life. I know how it feels when breaking up a romantic relationship, specially in young age. But its better to forget your ex, so you could go ahead in life. Heartbreak is something that can hurt like hell. First weeks, months are horrible and it seems like you are living in a bubble. Everything is far away and not real. Reality seems not to be real.

Relationships Breakup Survival Guide: Train you Brain To Forget You Ex
"Loving truly does not mean acquiring the object of your love". If you love someone truly, it does not matter whether he/she loves you back. Loving that person is an end in itself. But in order to live a prosperous and happy life you should forget the one you love. 

How to forget someone you love?

Forgetting someone you once loved deeply simply isn’t possible. You heart might stop yearning and your dreams no longer be haunted, then one day you might even be convinced you are done with missing and your wounds all healed. But you can't forget your loved one forever. Your brain will keep in saved all your memories. The only thing you can do is deeming those memories and you can be healed from the "past love' pains.

What happens after breaking up?

After breaking up with a long-term relationship you will go through such a tough time. Breaking up with someone you truly loved will remain one of your most significant life experiences. The process of forgetting someone you loved can break you. Or it can transform you into a stronger, more balanced and more mature version of yourself, with a much higher potential for choosing and creating deeply fulfilling relationships in the future.
The period of time from when memories of a beloved still burn and when they start to mellow is indefinite. That’s the frustrating part of this kind of loss—there is no definitive date in your Outlook calendar marked “Heartbreak Out of Office”. There seems to be no end in sight, in fact.

How to Forget someone you love:

Not everything in life goes the way we want them to go and there are some times when you have to know how to forget someone you love. Our brain has an inherent ability to naturally filter information allowing us to focus on a task.

How to forget someone – Rule #1. Don’t try to fix the relationship

First thing you need to do is to make sure you don’t want your ex back. If you do what I advice then you will find that your ex is regretting breaking up with you. However, if you try to get them back at the middle of the stage, you will just go back to the square one and feel awkward thereafter. So, kill all hopes to restore the relationship.

How to forget someone – Rule #2. Be strong and secretive

Try  not to babble your love story to everyone, be secretive, you will feel  good, strong and hence motivated to face hardships in future. It's human  nature.
Never believe in gaining sympathy and hitting on to a interesting conversation on the basis of you love experience.
Remember, people are more prone to be friendly with happy and carefree people.

How to forget someone – Rule #3. Don’t stay in touch

Break all contact. Forge a life on your own. Discover who you are without her. Spend more time with your family and friends. Reconnect with old friends. Go and stay with friends who live far away. It's surprising how just a simple message and a cheeky self-invitation can lead to new experiences. Staying in touch with ex is dangerous because human emotions are irrational, and staying friends with someone we have romantic interest in makes us falsely believe – usually in spite of ourselves – that they’re somehow somewhere available when they’re not.

How to forget someone – Rule #4. Avoid new relationship

Don't get into a new relationship of any kind. Not even casual sex. Unless you can do it with no emotional attachment whatsoever and it is purely recreational. If you aren't ready and you're still not over him, you will make everything 10 times worse. Trust me.

How to forget someone – Rule #5. You are greater than your ex

Make your ex believe that they were far below than you. Once you involve into a better relationship, let it know to your ex. I am not asking you to take revenge. I am just asking you to let them discover that they were such a fool one who decided to dump you.
Doing so will restore your hurt ego. To do so you can take the help of Facebook, Whatsapp and your mutual friends.
 

How to forget someone – Rule #6. Don't Imagine "What If . . ."

Once the relationship is broken, it will never be the same again no matter how hard you try to piece it back together. There is a reason why the relationship didn't work, and it's rare that the relationship works the second time around.

If the deal breaker was unrelated to the couple (like a job or just a minor misunderstanding), it's possible things might work out if the situation changes. But if you broke up because of individual differences or cheating, hon, you should think twice before getting involved with the same person again.

You need to look within yourself and be honest. If you think you can still trust the person wholeheartedly then go for it. But you have to be careful. Seriously—if he cheated on you once he’ll cheat on you again, that's for sure! What I'm trying to say is, it's better if you don't look back. Less conflict, worry-free and new possibilities for love and better life. Science have proven that once a cheater is always a cheater so do yourself some favor and look for someone else who would see your true value...
What I'm trying to say is, it's better if you don't look back. You will have less inner conflict, fewer worries, and more possibilities for love and a better life.

How to forget someone – Rule #7. “Deal with your biggest problem first.”

Buddhist meditation teacher Norman Fischer suggests that no matter what’s happened, the biggest problem we face is our own anger. Our anger creates a cloud of emotion that keeps us from responding in a cogent, productive way. In that sense, our anger really is our biggest problem. Deal with yourself—meditate, exercise, take a long walk, say less and give it more time, or whatever it takes—before you deal with anyone else.

How to forget someone – Rule #8. Accept What Happened but Don't Dwell on it

It is normal to be upset, mad and hurt after break-ups especially if it's a third party issue. And you'd probably be mad for a long time. But if you stay mad you'd only stress yourself and you'd only make your world smaller. You have to accept that the relationship is over and don't even try to pick up the pieces because you'd only hurt yourself. Acceptance is the first step to moving on and getting over that stupid ex, so its time for you to make that first step. Once you've accepted it, don't dwell on it. Don't over-think and over-analyze things. Don't dwell on the "what if or what might have been" in the relationship. It's fruitless. Believe me, I've tried and it only made me feel worse than I have ever been.
You can choose to avoid thinking about him or her and causing yourself suffering. It’s not easy, but you can do it.

How to forget someone – Rule #9. You’re not a time magician. 

When we churn over past events, we often search for how we might have done things differently to prevent a crazy altercation or regrettable outcome. But what happened yesterday is as much in the past as what happened a thousand or more years ago. We can’t change what took place way back then, and we can’t change what happened a week ago.
“Some people pass through our lives for a reason to teach us lessons that could never be learned if they stayed.” —Mandy Hale

How to train your brain to forget someone

Grieve, qualifiers, or time limitations

In order to heal from loss, we must grieve; there's simply no other way. So let yourself cry. Bring compassion to your pain. Likewise, there are no time limitations on grief. Some people may need to grieve hard for a month and then they're mostly over it, while others grieve intermittently, in fits and starts, over the course of a year or longer. 
There's only your pain and your grief, and as long as you're meeting your pain with compassion instead of self-judgement or a "poor me" mentality, the grief is healthy and is the very medicine that will help you heal.

Tell you brain to forget someone

When we tell our brain "don't forget" our brain interprets this information as unimportant. When this happens, our brain filters the information, discards it and allows us to forget. Knowing this, it is important to begin training your brain to remember. Do this by changing the words "Don't forget" to "Remember to". "Remember to pick up the milk." "Remember to call the doctor." Saying and thinking "remember" tells our mind the information is important and therefore stores the data for later use.

Wrapping up of breakup survival guide

Every failed relationship is painful. There will come a time you got used to the pain. It has become a part in your everyday life. From time to time you will get annoyed - that's not reality and life is still beautiful. I guess this is the time you are moving on. But it's impossible forgetting someone you really loved once. I mean that would be sad too?! Turn your pain into workflow and make a wish to show the world that you are the best.

You need to be in love but it doesn't have to be a person always. Love your work, love your passions, love your family. Because love is the purest and the most beautiful thing in this world!

You can forget the person you love, but you can never forget the love you felt for that person. With time, you will realize that this is no bad thing as it is one of numerous important experiences that have shaped you as a person. When you come to this realization, it will make it a lot easier for you to deal with your pain.

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