Someone asked a bunch of 50+ people about things they wished they had done in their younger years. The answers are incredibly smart, and in ...

Someone asked a bunch of 50+ people about things they wished they had done in their younger years. The answers are incredibly smart, and in most cases, simple. If you’ve recently hit the big 3-0, this is your homework. 


“If you could see me now, I’m down on my poor, crackling knees begging you to at least consider stopping smoking,” writes Quora user Cyndi Perlman Fink. It’s expensive, smells gross, and is 100% guaranteed to cause health problems. Want to be cancer-free at 50? Stop smoking.


“You can make a lot of money in the 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s,…90s to buy the whole world when you are at age 50 or beyond,” writes Quora user Sireesha Chilakamarri.  “But, you cannot buy your health. Give up on fast food right now at age 30.”


“…Chances are you’ve come across ideas and changed in ways that mean you don’t see eye to eye with them on many issues. But then – that’s part of what a family can help with – to learn to get along with people you don’t agree with on many issues,” writes Quora user Robert Walker.”I come from a family which is very argumentative. If you didn’t understand the situation, you might at times think we hate each other. But it isn’t like that at all. Rather, we free to speak our minds because the family ties are so strong.”


“I was stupid. I didn’t listen. Do you want wrinkles and thin skin from sun damage like I have and do you want bruises from just lightly touching the side of a box and having your skin peel off? Go ahead, enjoy lying in the sun without sunblock,” writes Quora user Cyndi Perlman Fink.

20 Things To Do When You’re 30 That Will Make Life Better At 50

Build an active lifestyle now, and when you’re 50, you won’t be stuck in a Rascal. “Don’t gain weight. Exercise. Keep your weight at a reasonable level that’s good for your body,” continues Cyndi Perlman Fink. “Weight does all kinds of bad things for your body. I’ve been fat, I’ve been thin, thin is healthier.”


“Save money. I know this is a boring, trite, and unsexy suggestion, but it’s true,” writes Quora user Cliff Gilley. “In your 30s, the average person has a lot of disposable income, some of which can almost always quickly be set aside for use later in life.  Plus, building the habit of saving early means you’ll continue it further down the line.”


“…Happiness is what matters far more than worldly success,” writes Quora user Robert Walker. “If you are content with what you have, then you may be a bit less likely to end up a millionaire, but you will have a happier life.  And if you do become a wealthy person – is no reason why not, you’ll be a more happy, fulfilled and productive rich person.”


“Want to buy a house? Have kids? Write a book? Get a second degree or advanced degree? Change your career? Learn to play a new musical instrument? Learn to cook gourmet meals? Try scuba diving? Run for public office? Start a business and be self-employed? Then start today,” writes Quora user Bill Karwin. “It’s easy to put things off. “I’ll get to that someday.” But it’s really true that time starts accelerating as you enter your 30’s, and it keeps accelerating. The time that you’ll get around to those dreams should be now.”


“Use stellar sleep hygiene,” writes Quora user Nan Waldman. “A dark room or sleep shades will block out the light. No bright screens before bedtime. Go to sleep at the same time and wake up at the same time.”


“…Go to the freaking dentist already,” writes Quora user Caroline Zelonka. “Get your little cavities fixed as they come up. Unlike many body health issues, dental problems only get worse — and things like crowns and implants are uncomfortable, time-consuming and expensive (like close to five figures per tooth for an extraction, implant, and crown). If you have a real savings and income stream, the bills won’t be the painful thing — but there’s no getting around the pain and the time suck.”


You are the sum of your experiences. Don’t wake up when you’re 50 and realize that you’ve wasted life gathering possessions. Memories won’t depreciate and can’t be burned in a fire. (Inspired by Quora user Richard Careaga).


“Give to others, so you feel the goodness that service brings,” writes Quora user Nan Waldman. “However you give, do it with your full heart, soul, and effort. Expect nothing in return.”


“Get out of the house and have an honest-to-God adventure right now,” writes Quora user Mary Leek. “Make it as big as you can possibly manage, take lots of pictures, throw caution to the wind, assume the risk, grab the brass ring. If possible, include someone you’re close to – make a BIG memory. It has to be more than jumping out of an airplane – it needs to be measured in days, not hours or minutes. You’ll still be smiling about it when you’re old and creaky, I promise. I am.”


“Gee I wish I spent more time watching TV and playing video,” said no 50-year-old ever. Your brain neither stops growing nor exercise. 


“Traveling will change you like little else can. It will put you in places that will force you to care for issues that are bigger than you,” writes Jeff Goins. “It’s about experiencing true risk and adventure, so you don’t have to live in fear for the rest of your life. And…inspiring others to step out of that fear, too.”


“The list of benefits is endless, it only costs you a small amount of time a day, the change in your life and the people you love will be incredible,” writes Quora user Rens De Nobel. “And compared to ten years ago, there are long lists of scientific studies to back it up.”

17. DO YOU.

Trust me, the day your body starts to show the signs of wear & tear, you no longer see any fun in partying or trying to impress people around you,” writes Quora user Satish Kumar Grandhi. “You need to start your path of self-discovery right now to become stronger by the time you are 50.”


“You WILL forget more of your precious memories that you’ll remember,” writes Quora user Mark Crawley. “Your written records will entertain and endear in your future (wish I had). Your computer should make this archiving all the easier to implement and retain/recall. Put files on memory sticks with photos. Your kids (or surviving spouse) may someday love you for it.”


“Buy a house, it’ll be nearly paid for by the time you’re 50,” writes Quora user Liz Read.


“Choose people who make you feel like you already are your best self, who challenge you by their example, and who you genuinely enjoy,” explains Nan Waldman. “Nurture them. Laugh with them. Be silly too. Contribute to their survival and enjoyment of life. Take the time every week to be in touch.”

It’s easy to let stress, our emotions, and anxiety affect our sense of calm, especially during the hectic holiday season. But when we let ou...

It’s easy to let stress, our emotions, and anxiety affect our sense of calm, especially during the hectic holiday season. But when we let ourselves get carried away, we don’t just change our mind. This stress takes a toll on our body and causes a sense of imbalance in our lives. We then become unable to cope with situations that we normally would have the ability to handle.

How To Calm Down And Banish Anxiety For Good

The first thing to do is to start checking in with your body throughout the day. Notice how you are feeling. Many times our sense of calm can be upset without us even realizing it. The time to start with these practices is when you first notice that you aren’t feeling relaxed. Once you notice this, here are my suggestions on how to go easy.

1. Breathe

While meditating has tremendous benefits in helping to bring a sense of calm to one’s life, you don’t have to do a full mediation session to bring a sense of peace to each moment. Try to set time for regular breathing sessions during the day. Instead of mindlessly scrolling through the Facebook feed next time you have a few minutes of free time, take a few deep breaths. Just for a moment, keep your mind on your breath. You will find that you return to the moment much more relaxed and centered.

2. Spend Time In Solitude

Even extroverts need time alone. When we are around people, our energy is affected, and if we don’t take time alone to recharge our batteries, we can find ourselves stressed without knowing why. If you don’t live alone, go out in nature and spend time with yourself. When you spend time alone, especially in silence, you will find that you can hear yourself and access your intuition better as well.

3. Listen To Binaural Beats To Calm Down

Binaural Beats cause a hypnotic response in the brain and can do wonders to calm you down instantly. They work best when listened to with headphones, and there are many free ones for a variety of symptoms available on YouTube. I listen to them daily when I am working on my computer. They are also great to listen to as you drift off to sleep at night.

4. Dance

The majority of us live only in our heads. We have an entire body, but we spend most of our time in our minds. When we move our bodies, we lose some of our obsession with being in our minds, and we will notice an immediate sense of calm. You can get this effect with any activity or exercise which forces you to be in your body, but my favorite activity is dancing. You don’t need to go out to dance. You can have a dance party in your own living room. Freely express yourself and let yourself go.

5. Use Essential Oils To Help You Relax

Most of us know the soothing effects that lavender can have on the body, but many other scents can help with different types of anxiety. Frankincense is my favorite for calming a busy mind, while Jasmine is great for anxiety. Vetiver is perfect for sleeping and for relieving jet lag. I prefer to get the benefits of essential oils by using a diffuser, but you can also get their benefits by putting them in a foot bath or mixing them with a carrier oil and wearing them as perfume. One of the most relaxing things to do is to bring them in your bath water.

What ways do you use to calm down? Let me know in the comments below!

There are many things we can learn from classic literature. Our favorite books teach us lessons, deep lessons, lessons about the human condi...

There are many things we can learn from classic literature. Our favorite books teach us lessons, deep lessons, lessons about the human condition and the human heart. Also, how to pick up attractive people at bars, clubs, the grocery store. Here’s how to put your library to good use.

1. I’d never say “Farewell” to those Arms.

2. I’d love you in all the times, including* the Time of Cholera. (*but not limited to)

3. My Heart was a Lonely Hunter ’til I met you, girl.

4. Portnoy’s Complaint was that he didn’t get to see your fine behind.

5. You may not be Miss Jean Brodie, but I can tell you’re in your Prime.

6. Girl, you raise my temperature way past Fahrenheit 451.

7. Can I have The Way of All Flesh with you?

8. I’m no Jane, but I’d Eyre on the side of saying I think you’re beautiful.

9. I’d like to end your Age of Innocence.

10. Tender is the Night you let me take you home.

11. As I Lay Dying…my biggest regret was not telling you how beautiful you are.

12. Girl, we’re the Beautiful and the Damned, you’re beautiful and I’ll be damned if you don’t let me buy you a drink.

13. If you give me yo’ number, I’ll live up to all your Great Expectations.

14. Can you help me? I’m in Search of all the Lost Time I spent checkin’ you out.

15. Girl, it would be both a Crime and a Punishment if you don’t let me take you out.

16. I’d like to Catch 22 of you.

17. Girl, you’re my great white whale, and you make my dick be mo’.

18. I’d Revisit your Brideshead anytime.

19. I’d never be Misérables waking up to your face.

20. You’re the Lord of my Flies, and you can unzip them anytime.

21. If it was 1984, and I was Big Brother, I’d only watch you.

22. Hey lady, there’s nothing Second about your Sex.

23. I wanna do Wild Things wherever you Are.

24. I’d spend Tuesdays with Morrie, but baby, I’d spend every day with you.

25. Have you lost weight? Your Lightness is Unbearable, and it’s doing something to my Being.

26. The Sun isn’t the only thing around here that Also Rises.

27. Hey girl, can you say that one more time? I can’t hear you over the Sound and the Fury of my beating heart.

28. My love for you is Infinite, and I do not Jest.

29. I know For Whom the Bell Tolls, so why don’t you call me sometime?

30. Are you Five People? ’Cause I just met you, and I’m in Heaven.

31. Hey girl, don’t be The Stranger.

32. I want to take your body to Wuthering Heights.

33. We Need to Talk About Kevin. I’m Kevin, can I buy you a drink?

34. Even Cowgirls Get the Blues if you won’t give them your number, boy.

35. If you’d let me, baby, I’d Middlemarch you right on down the aisle.

Sometimes words aren’t enough to communicate with the object of your affection — English words, that is. In case you aren’t lucky enough to ...

Sometimes words aren’t enough to communicate with the object of your affection — English words, that is. In case you aren’t lucky enough to speak 12 languages fluently, we’ve compiled a love and dating-themed vocabulary list drawn from sources as varied as Tagalog, Dutch, and Inuit. Get over your Saudade, indulge in a little cafuné, and you’ll be questing in no time.

1. Mamihlapinatapai (Yaghan, Tierra del Fuego) – This term, which holds the Guinness World Record for “most succinct word,” means “looking at each other hoping that either will offer to do something which both parties desire but are unwilling to do.”

2. Saudade (Portuguese) – A melancholic nostalgia for someone or something from the past.

3. Tuqburni (Arabic) – The literal translation is “You bury me,” referring to a love so deep you can’t imagine living life without your partner.

4. Bakku-shan (Japanese) – A girl who’s only attractive when she’s viewed from behind.

5. Forelsket (Norwegian) – That intoxicatingly euphoric feeling you experience when you’re first falling in love.

6. Cafuné (Portuguese) – The act of running your fingers through your lover’s hair.

7. Paasa (Tagalog) – “A person who leads someone on (intentionally or not). Appearing as if they are genuinely interested romantically when they aren’t.”

8. Kummerspeck (German) – Literally translating to “grief bacon,” this delightful word refers to the less-than-delightful excess weight you gain from emotional overeating.

9. Onsra (Boro language of India) – That bittersweet feeling of loving for the last time — in other words, that feeling you get when you know a love won’t last.

10. Gretchenfrage (German) – A question asked for the purpose of finding out someone’s real intentions. First dates are overflowing with Gretchenfrages.

11. La douleur exquise (French) – The excruciating pain that comes from wanting someone you can’t have.

12. Queesting (Dutch) – A whole verb dedicated to inviting a lover into your bed for some pillow talk.

13. Oodal (Tamil) – The fake-sulking you do after getting into a lovers’ tiff, usually over something inconsequential. Also see: crocodile tears.

14. Kilig (Tagalog) – The stupid-silly rush you feel immediately after something good happens, especially when it comes to love (like after accidentally bumping into your crush.)

15. Cavoli riscaldati (Italian) – When you attempt to start up a failed relationship or love affair. Also, literally, ‘reheated cabbage.’

16. Buksvåger (Swedish) – What you call someone who has had sex with someone you’ve already had sex with.

17. Koi no yokan (Japanese) – It does not quite love at first sight, but koi no yokan is nevertheless the feeling you get upon meeting someone that love will happen for the two of you, in time.

18. Gigil (Tagalog) – That indescribable, irresistible urge to grab or pinch something or someone super-adorable.

19. Iktsuarpok (Inuit) – The anticipation you feel when you’re waiting for someone to show up at your house.

20. Voorpret (Dutch) – That feeling of excitement you get even before an event actually takes place. Literally, translates to “pre-fun.”
21. Retrouvailles (French) – Retrouvailles, or “rediscovery,” refers to the happiness you feel upon reuniting with someone after you’ve been apart for a long time.

22. Razbliuto (Russian) – The (usually sentimental) feeling you have toward someone you used to love but no longer do.

23. Viraag (Hindi) – The emotional pain of being separated from a loved one.

24. Fensterln (German) – When you have to climb through someone’s window to have sex with them without their parents knowing about it.

25. Layogenic (Tagalog) – When someone looks attractive from far away, but, oh, they’re getting closer, oh, never mind. Also see: Total Monet

You finally decided to start that business… to put your goals to action and bring your dreams to reality. But then you are unable to mainta...

You finally decided to start that business… to put your goals to action and bring your dreams to reality. But then you are unable to maintain the same enthusiasm as you get along. You are happy you started but some situations are causing you to doubt if you made the right decision. It takes a lot of commitment to succeed in any business venture. However, there are some guiding principles that successful entrepreneurs go by.

1. Don’t chase the money-Chase the service: 

The common practice with entrepreneurs is to follow up hard on the money (revenue, sales etc) and very often compromise the service.When the business is new and promising, it could attract a lot of clients who might either stay with you and become loyal or run off after their first experience with you.  In order to stay in business, focus first on the service and money will follow. But if you chase the money first, you chase the clients away and the money will go with them.

2. Give: 

Endeavor to give to the community where you make your money. That will earn you loyalty. Many entrepreneurs want to wait until they have made tons of profit before they engage in corporate social responsibilities. Try giving back to the community of the people who buy your products and you will be impressed at how much brand loyalty your action can build.

3. Avoid exploitation of labor. 

When labor is cheap and available it is often abused. If your workers are disgruntled, the quality of their work will be highly affected. Endeavor to pay your workers on time and pay them in consideration to service rendered and risk took to perform tasks. This will improve your customer service because of happy workers equal to a good job.

4. Honor the Lord your God. 

All things belong to God. So be wise and give honor where it is due. There are two sources of wealth. It either comes from the Almighty God or the evil one. Wise people wait on God because only He gives freely and when He gives, He directs you on what to do and how to do it. So give Him honor in appreciation of what you have and He will release more to you.

5. Love: 

There is no better way of showing true service. Without love, you would not care about the kind of products you offer your clients. By loving your clients, you will not cheat them nor trick them. You would be conscious of what you offer them.

6. Believe in yourself and trust in your struggle. 

When you are newly starting a business, people will talk you out of it when progress is slow. You may also get overwhelmed when things don’t work out as planned. Irrespective of what it is, stay focused on the goals and believe in yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one will. If you were bold enough to have started the business, be bold enough to believe in it. Don’t let others talk you out of it.

7.Be appreciative of each stage of progress. 

Progress comes in stages. Appreciate the progress you have made and avoid measuring your progress by the success of others. It will only discourage you. Don’t forget that those you envy were once where you are.

When we think about productivity and efficiency, we often overlook a necessary precursor: Happiness. Not only are happy employees 12 percent...

When we think about productivity and efficiency, we often overlook a necessary precursor: Happiness. Not only are happy employees 12 percent more productive, but depressed mood also kills motivation, energy, and focus. For those of us who have firsthand experience, stats are unnecessary. 

Happiness can be a struggle for everyone (especially given the social media highlight reels to which we compare our lives), but as I see all the time in my work as a therapist, men have some additional hurdles to jump through:

6 Common Barriers to Happiness and Productivity for Men

1. Men are less in touch with their emotions, so they don’t always know what’s causing them to feel "off."

By the time some people come into my office, they're in a dangerous place. Like really freaking depressed. Why? They’ve grown up being told not be pussies, so they’ve disconnected from anything that resembles a feeling, and aren’t willing to acknowledge they're dealing with something until they've virtually mapped out a suicide plan. I’m not kidding.

An uncomfortable feeling is like a little crack in a car’s windshield. While women are more likely to pay attention to this crack before it gets bigger than a quarter, men tend to ignore it and drive until the entire windshield is spidered. By the time they bring it in to get fixed, they have to get the whole windshield replaced when they could have just had it repaired if they’d attended to it sooner.

2. Men make things worse by creating a whole other layer of sh*tty feelings for themselves

Since men are socialized to be strong, and independent, they create what we therapists refer to as "secondary" feelings if they perceive themselves to be anything other than "detached and cool." I’ll illustrate: Let’s say Sad Jim is sad because he moved across the country for a new job and feels lonely and isolated. These are called first feelings. They’re normal and healthy reactions to life.

But instead of empathizing with these normal feelings, he judges himself for being sad. ‘Cuz men are supposed to be independent and strong! He says, “Don’t be a little Bitch” under his breath. Now Sad Jim not only feels sad and lonely, he feels shame for feeling sad and lonely. He's created another layer of feelings -- secondary feelings -- because he believes he shouldn't feel sad. Maybe he reacts to the shame by snapping at his new co-worker. Anger, after all, is a more “manly” and acceptable emotion than sadness, but now his new co-worker thinks he’s an asshole, and Sad Jim is even more isolated.

Secondary feelings aren’t reserved for sadness or loneliness. I see clients feeling anxious about feeling anxious, embarrassed for feeling excited, ashamed for feeling angry, etc. 

3. Men have less support following breakups

You know this scenario: Sean and his long-term lady, Rachel, break up. No cheating, no domestics; they just stopped having sex and felt like roommates. Still, they'd lived together for three years, and moving into a studio wasn't exactly a walk in the park for Sean.

Their first night living separately, Rachel is engulfed by four close friends. They spend the next three hours (read: months) listening to her process the breakup, empathizing with what she's going through.

Sean, on the other hand, hits the bar with buddies, where he proceeds to down ALL the tequila shots and wakes up with a terrible headache and a strange woman next to him. He picks up his phone to a congratulatory text from his buddy "Ya Boy! Guess you're over it!" From here forward, if Sean feels lonely or misses Rachel, he tells himself to get over it. Even if he wanted to honor his grieving process and talk about it, research on this subject suggests that he may not feel comfortable talking to his friends. Rachel was his confidant for anything emotional, and he’s obviously not going to share his feelings with her.

4. Men feel societal pressure, too

Think women are the only ones feeling the pressure to fit a mold? Our men were raised on James Bond and compare themselves to pre-scandal(s) Tom Brady. They often feel inadequate compared with these super-humans, and even more so if they don’t do CrossFit. Not only are men expected to earn six figures and have the demeanor of a womanizing secret agent, but they're also supposed to have the physique of one, too.

If that seems like an outdated notion of masculinity, consider this: the frequency of eating disorders in men have increased rapidly -- 27 percent since 2000 -- potentially a sign that men more and more frequently see themselves as failing to live up to an ideal.

5. Men think seeking help equates to failure as a man

Men are less likely than women to seek help from health professionals for depression, substance abuse, physical disabilities and stressful life events. They subsequently experience a suicide rate ratio of 4:1, compared with women, as well as a shorter lifespan (other factors contribute to this, such as higher-risk occupations, more risk-taking behaviors, and more homicides).

Why? Men feel ashamed to ask for help. The same process that occurs when asking for directions to the nearest Popeye’s also happens when making an appointment with a counselor. Real men do it themselves, they think.

6. Men are more likely to get messed up as a coping mechanism

People are more apt to turn to substances for solace and are twice as likely as women to become alcoholics. One potential explanation is that it's a lot of self-medication for the crap we talked about earlier.

While women are busy getting professional help and talking about their feelings with friends, men are turning to the bottle (or worse) to deal with their stress and sadness. Although women experience higher reported rates of depression, men’s higher alcoholism rates are likely an ineffective coping strategy attempting to address similar depression stats (the 4:1 suicide ratio supports this hypothesis).

Of course, this reinforces a vicious cycle, because the aftermath of getting boozy or high wants to hide in a dark place and fast-forward the day.

So how do we fix it?

It’s actually pretty simple. We need to recognize that men are humans, too, and have emotions. I know, this isn’t exactly earth-shattering news. But think about it: if we quit raising boys in the shaming, stigmatizing “Be a MAN” way we do currently, and start permitting them to actually have feelings, we’re going to see:

  • Happier men
  • Happier people in relationships with the men
  • More Comfortable workplaces (emotional intelligence increases productivity)
  • Lower rates of substance abuse
  • Reduce costs on the medical system (physical and mental health)

And that, my friends, should get you excited. But not too excited… you don’t wanna emasculate yourself.

Originally published on Entrepreneur.

Are you happy with what you have accomplished over the last several months? What goals still have to be completed? Can you identify a new go...

Are you happy with what you have accomplished over the last several months? What goals still have to be completed? Can you identify a new goal you have now because your business shifted since the beginning of the year? Taking time to reflect is important to move your business forward.

1  Break It Down

Goal setting is an important part of starting and owning a business. Without business goals, you may find that you are floundering around in your business with no direction. Your business goals can keep you focused on where you want to be while helping you create a plan for getting there.

Once you're ready to get started with goal setting, these 10 powerful goal setting steps will help you achieve even your most ambitious business goals.

10 Powerful Steps to Achieve Your Small Business Goals

The first step is to break down your goals. Business goals are often long-term and require quite a bit of work, time and effort. By breaking down your goals into manageable action steps, it is easier to focus on what you need to do right now and not get overwhelmed by the process.

A good way to break down your business goals is by creating an action plan made up of individual tasks that each includes one clearly defined action. By thinking regarding baby steps, it's easy to make progress and have small accomplishments every day.

2  Track Your Progress

Part of successful goal setting is tracking how far you've come. Not only can this be a great motivator, but it can also help you plan future goals and action steps.

You can track your progress by conducting weekly and/or monthly goal check-ins that help you evaluate what you have accomplished and where you need to focus more of your attention. It may also be helpful for you to create milestones based on time and progress so you can easily tell if you're on track for reaching your goal.

3  Commit to the Process

Practical goal setting requires clarity about what the goal involves, knowledge on what type of effort will be necessary, and specific reasons why the goal is important to you. It also includes a plan for how you will accomplish each step, and perhaps most importantly, a commitment to seeing the goal through to completion.

If you are unable to commit to the goal by taking the time to develop a plan and scheduling the time to focus on the action steps that will bring you closer to your goal, you will face an unnecessarily complicated challenge.

4  Build a Support System

A support system can help you reach your goals in some ways:

  • You can be motivated by the knowledge that you have a solid team behind you.
  • You can learn from the experiences and backgrounds of your team.
  • Your team can cheer you on when you face challenges in the process.
  • You can be held accountable by your team for doing what you say you want to do.
  • Your team can provide a perspective that's different from your own.
  • Your team can help you celebrate your successes.
  • Your support system can be comprised of family, friends, mentors, colleagues, or anyone who supports you and wants to see you succeed.

5  Stay Flexible

Very few things happen exactly as we anticipate, both in business and in life. It's vital to be able to adjust to changes and modify your plan as necessary, without losing momentum.

While it's important to have a clearly defined plan for accomplishing your goals, you should avoid rigidity and narrow-minded thinking. The agiler you are and the quicker you can change directions when you need to, the easier it will be for you to keep progress steady in the face of the unexpected.

6  Keep Your Eye on the Prize

When you're working toward a long-term or ambitious goal, it's important to break it down into small and manageable steps that you can tackle every day. But while you're focusing on taking it one step at a time, you should make sure you are clear on what you are working toward.

Big picture thinking is an effective way to stay motivated and focused. Take some time to envision what it will look like and feel like when you've reached your goal. Then, return to that vision during the process to remind yourself why this goal is so important to you.

7  Accept Imperfection

A challenge with goals for many of us is the desire to do everything correctly, each step of the way. Sometimes, this idea of perfection and the fear of failure holds us back and prevents us from making progress.

When it comes to goals, forward-moving progress often trumps mistakes so it can be more important to keep the process moving than to wait until the situation is perfect to proceed. It's also important to consider that mistakes provide a powerful learning experience; a misstep can open your eyes up to new ideas and approaches that you may not otherwise see.

8  Don't Stop Moving

We've outlined the importance of being able to change directions and accept imperfection. In these situations, and during your normal process, it's important to keep moving forward, even when the situation is not what you expect it to be.

Although your path may change and your progress may seem minimal, the only way to reach your goal is to keep taking it step-by-step and piece-by-piece. Every time you complete a baby step, you are getting closer to achieving your goal, and as long as you continue to move forward, you are on the path to success.

9  Think Positively

Being confident in your ability to achieve your goal can play a significant role in your success. You have to believe in yourself if you are going to achieve your goal.

Thinking positively, encouraging yourself, and being inspired by your support team is vital. Positive thoughts can often carry you through tough challenges, unexpected changes and other tests of your will.

10  Celebrate Your Successes

It's important to celebrate your successes throughout your goal setting and achievement process, even the small wins. By celebrating, you are taking the time to recognize the effort that went into your performance while motivating yourself to keep pushing through to the next step of your goal.

Celebrating success is also a good way to get closure on each stage of the process, and come back refreshed and refocused on your continued progress.

By following these 10 great goal setting steps, you will be able to break down your long-term goals and take baby steps each day to get closer and closer to your success.

Everyone wants to be successful in their career, but very few can achieve it. Therefore here are seven career planning tips for success and ...

Everyone wants to be successful in their career, but very few can achieve it. Therefore here are seven career planning tips for success and prosperous life. 

There's an old Yiddish proverb: "Man plans, God laughs." It's true that life often gets in the way of our plans, but does that mean we shouldn't make them? Of course not. An unplanned future would be chaotic. You should, however, be flexible enough to amend your plans when the need arises. One way we plan for the future is by setting goals. A goal is "the end toward which effort is directed," according to

7 Ways to Set Short- and Long-Term Work Goals


Goal setting is a major component of the career planning process. Your goals and the steps you take to achieve them will make up your career action plan. This is the roadmap that will take you from choosing a career to succeeding in it. In this context, your goals will be your career objectives, for example, a particular occupation, a rung on the career ladder or an earnings level.

Short- and Long-Term Goals

Goals can be broadly classified into two categories: short-term goals and long-term goals. Short-term goals are those you can achieve in six months to three years while it can take three to five years to reach long ones. Your long-term goals may be, for instance, earning a bachelor's degree in accounting, passing your certified public accounting exam and getting a job as an accountant. Your short-term goals, which will lead to achieving your long term ones, might be completing your college applications, getting accepted into college, enrolling, and earning a good grade point average.

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It's relatively simple to state a goal but achieving it isn't quite as easy. Of course, your actions are the biggest factor in determining whether or not you will succeed but how you formulate your goals is almost as important. Make sure they meet these criteria:

  1. Your goals must be specific. One might say, "I want to be successful." Well, who doesn't? But can you define what success means to you? Success to one person may mean becoming CEO of a company while to another person it can mean getting home from work by 6 o'clock every night.
  2. You must be able to measure the outcome of your goals. When you set a goal, you must include a time frame for achieving it. You can also specify amounts. For example, one can say "in three years I want to be halfway through graduate school."
  3. Don't be negative. Make sure your goal is something you want rather than something you want to avoid. For instance instead of saying "I don't want to be stuck in this job for another four years," say "I want to improve my skills over the next four years so that I qualify for a better job."
  4. Keep your goals realistic. Make sure your abilities and skills are compatible with your long-term goals. Your goal shouldn't be "I want to win a Grammy Award next year" if you don't have a recording contract, haven't made a record and can't even carry a tune.
  5. Is your goal reachable within your time frame? Don't set yourself up to fail. If you have one big goal, then you have to break it down into smaller parts, or short term goals. Remember, you will do better if you take baby steps than one big giant leap.
  6. There must be an action tied to each goal. For instance, if your goal is to graduate from college three years from now, the action tied to it would be to complete the remaining 94 credits you need to complete your bachelor's degree.
  7. Be flexible about your goals. If you encounter barriers that seem like they might impede your progress, don't give up. Instead, modify your goals accordingly. Let's say you have to work and can't complete a bachelor's degree in four years. You can enroll in school part-time and adjust your time frame. However, if a particular goal becomes something that is no longer important to you, then you should consider letting it go. That will allow you to put your energy into pursuing objectives that are important to you.

Setting goals will not guarantee you a successful future.

It will increase your odds significantly and that is the best thing you can ask for.